Kindness toward parents

Surah Al-Isra 23-24 advises against using hurtful words when speaking to parents, especially in their old age, and teaches mercy. Praying for them is also a part of this narrative. Respectful communication encourages listening to their needs for care and providing support according to one's means.

The address in Surah Al-Isra specifically mentions the example of parents growing old and being present with the individual. It calls for avoiding condescension in speech, speaking kindly, and approaching them with mercy. The prayer said for them creates a bond between the care we received in the past and the attention we can show today.

The need of an elderly relative may not always be what we assume. Listening to them, asking for their preferences, and protecting their right to have a say in tasks they can still perform are the human aspects of care. Small gestures like calling, spending time together, or facilitating a daily task can provide a concrete response to the relationship.

The caregiver may also have needs for rest and support. Sharing duties within the family or seeking necessary help makes mercy sustainable. Instead of equating respect solely with silently carrying every burden, considering communicating without hurt and talking about needs honestly is a more realistic start.